Can I come to couples counselling on my own?
This is a commonly asked question.
The simple answer is yes! Even if one person in the couple is willing to look at how they are impacting the relationship and consider trying another approach; there will be a shift.
One cannot keep doing something the same way and expect a different outcome. You can then work with me to fine tune the behaviour/approach and get better or different outcomes.
By helping you to step into a more assertive and less hostile position it will allow for more effective communication.
This could ultimately lead to the other half of the couple witnessing the improved communication/behaviour and coming through to be part of the process as well.
Your relationship is important to you. Sometimes you need to be the person to take the first step.
So ask yourself – what are you afraid of? What are you waiting for?
Make that call today, you and your relationship deserve it.
How many counselling sessions will l have to attend to start to make a difference?
I aim to make a difference from the very first session. With a down to earth and practical approach, I guarantee you there will be strategies discussed and some plan of action offered from the first session. I want you to start to feel better from the first session.
For couples I usually recommend a joint session together followed by an individual session for each person. Then followed by a session or sessions together. Generally the 4 sessions are enough to put in place effective strategies.
If there has been an affair or infidelity of some description this will obviously take longer as there has been a breach of trust.
Does counselling really work?
If you are committed to the process it can achieve long lasting results. If you are both willing to acknowledge the part you play in the relationship and able to look at compromise and other options – then the outcome can be very positive.
Take a look at the Testimonials to see what some of the happy clients have written.
Why see a Counsellor, Not a Psychologist?
Psychologists are primarily trained to identify and work with mental illness using CBT (Cognitive Behavioural Therapy). Counsellors are trained in interacting and working with clients to achieve mutually agreed outcomes, and usually have a range of tools (techniques) to call on. They are generally more practical in approach and the therapy is shorter term.