(rules of communication which lead to better understanding)
It has been raised recently in present clients, that it would be a good practise/idea to talk through and get an agreement with your partner, on how you would both like to celebrate and acknowledge important days like:
Birthdays and Anniversaries
Have a discussion and come to an agreement. These are very personal decisions and part of how you relate to these special days, will come from your family of origin.
No matter if the celebration is not on a grand scale, but these important days should always be marked. This is part of a practice of gratefulness.
Then do you celebrate or follow any religious holidays or festivities? What are both of your expectations here?
How do you approach holidays? Is one of you the planner, or is it a team approach? Do you have the same expectations of holidays?
Although a holiday sounds like a fun and great idea, it is actually an area that can cause great tension if you do not have the same expectations.
I find that some people get energised on holiday and want to cram in everything and be on the go 24/7, then there are others that would like to chill out and get in touch with their surroundings and do just a few chosen activities. It would be a great idea, to talk about the holiday expectations and plan them before going on the holiday.
What do you expect of each other on different areas of your life?
- Being active
- Seeing friends
- Work ethic
- Parenting (skills and styles)
The topics are plentiful and varied. I get immense satisfaction from helping couples communicate and work through these very important areas of our lives.
If any of these areas are causing you concern or distress, please contact me and soon we will work towards comfortable considered resolution.