So many couples that I have seen recently seem to have a hangover fatigue from long lockdowns and covid pressures leading to a listlessness and need for something new, to reset and find some positivity and a renewed sense of hope.

On saying this and I have encouraged countless couples over the years, that in order to reconnect you need to find a new activity that you do together.  This means that neither of you is an expert at the new activity.

You will be pleased to know that I have eventually taken my own advice! After not doing any formal exercise in three and a half years, dithering around, and making plenty of excuses with covid also adding to all of this, I have joined a small local gym with my husband.  

Although a lot fitter and much more active than I am, he is battling with a frozen shoulder, and so we are both motivating each other.  

I was very proud of his efforts to try Pilates, something I had tried well over ten years ago, but for him it was his first time. Likewise, I am trying the machines in the gym of which I have no idea how to use. So, we are both learning new things and together.

So many aspects of this activity are positive and adding value for both of us. 

Firstly, there is an activity booked into our diaries and having something to look forward to, or a commitment one makes helps to add structure to our days.  

 Secondly doing it together, we are a team and united, we motivate each other and keep each other accountable. 

As it is exercise, we feel better afterwards with the release of endorphins setting us up for the rest of the day.  

Thirdly it becomes our “thing” and is special time that we spend together. 

By spending positive time together, it leads to liking and appreciating your partner more and thus leading to feeling more connected. 

How about you give it a try? 

What new activity would you like to try with your partner? 

Some suggestions are doing a painting, sketching, drawing class, trying pottery making lessons, joining a rowing, dragon boating or walking club or hiking club, learning a new language, or ball room or salsa dancing classes. 

Or what about joining a bridge club or going for cooking classes, the list is long…. 

I challenge you to take that leap and commit to something new! 

Your strengthened relationship will be your reward.